For some, the holiday is filled with happy expectation and joy – preparing for the kids to come home and sharing traditions with friends and family.
But for those who are grieving and missing that one at the table, the holidays can be challenging.
That’s why the Sunshine Coast Hospice Society is holding a Winter Tea on Friday, Dec. 22, 1:30 to 3:30 p.m., at Hospice House, 4602 Simpkins Road in Davis Bay – to remember those who are not with us; to recognize that this can be a hard time of the year; and to gather strength for the coming days.
“It’s a time and space where people can be with all the feelings that come with the season and be among friends; your tears are no stranger here,” said president Denis Fafard.
“I still tend to feel raw and vulnerable at the holidays,” said Judy Lynne, whose son, Neil Falkner, died in a climbing accident in 2002. “That first year of living through anniversaries without Neil was my most painful, but as survivors, many of us would agree that while the pain is less sharp, our children are still sorely missed, especially at this time of the year,” said the facilitator of The Compassionate Friends, a support group for parents whose children have died.
“Creating rituals can bring some comfort,” Lynne said.
One mom placed 13 photos of her son on their family tree, one for every year of his life. Another hung her son’s stocking along with her other children’s, so that friends and family could leave a note for him. Later, she would burn the notes in a private ceremony.
During the Hospice Winter Tea, people are invited to write a love note for the ones who have died, which will be added to the love notes burned at the ceremonial fire on Jan. 1 at Mission Point Park.
The Winter Tea program is short but poignant, naming the emotions that are at the surface for so many who come to this gathering. Afterward, there is time to talk with others over homemade goodies and hot drinks.
– By Bernadette Richards, Manager, Hospice Services
