One of the many challenges experienced by persons with dementia or short-term memory loss is coping with social interactions. It is impossible for them to maintain focus with so many distractions – an unfamiliar setting, conversations that can turn on a dime, the din of many people talking.
In this atmosphere, even choices about what they want to drink or whether they would like the cracker and cheese or the crab delight can be overwhelming. As any of us will do when we are uncomfortable or afraid, the person with dementia either retreats into silence or belligerence or insists on leaving.
The caregiver who has been looking forward to a few hours of fun is faced instead with concern, disappointment and often embarrassment. After a while, caregivers decline invitations and console themselves with quiet evenings at home with the person they are caring for.
Studies have shown that socialization provides dementia sufferers with a sense of belonging while at the same time improving brain function and helping to maintain focus.
Locally, the Minds in Motion (MIM) program, which was established by the Alzheimer Society of British Columbia, provides these and other benefits. While participating in the exercise and socialization activities, caregivers and those they are caring for have formed bonds that extend beyond the weekly program.
This led, in February 2017, to the formation of the Memory Café.
The goal of the Memory Café, which is designed for caregivers and people suffering from short-term memory loss, early and mid-stage dementia, is to have fun. The first 15 minutes are devoted to sharing personal stories or recent adventures. The rest of the hour is spent playing games such as dominoes, card or dice games or bingo.
Occasionally, the group goes on a bus trip or a picnic. This summer they visited the Egmont Museum with a stop for lunch at the Grasshopper Restaurant in Pender Harbour, had a picnic at Porpoise Bay Park and most recently, went on a bus trip to the Sea-to-Sky Gondola in Squamish.
But the best part of the Memory Café is that folks facing the same challenges have a chance to get together. Conversation and activities are designed so that both those with memory issues and their caregivers can join in. Caregivers feel supported and the persons they are caring for participate without fear of censure or not being able to keep up.
The Memory Café is held every Tuesday from 1 to 2 p.m. in the Dr. Farish Room at the Sechelt Seniors Activity Centre. Caregivers must accompany the person with memory issues. Cost is $1.50 per person. While no food is served, coffee and tea are available in the reception area.
– Submitted by Rosella Leslie
