Regardless of whether you are single, divorced or in a beautiful relationship, there are likely times when you find yourself eating alone. For some, this is absolutely no big deal, but for others, dining solo can be a source of anxiety and loneliness, poor eating habits and sometimes embarrassment. But it doesn’t have to be! Dining alone can be empowering and nurturing.
I’ve been at both ends of the spectrum: elated to be eating alone and absolutely heartbroken to have no one to share a delectable meal with.
Making a living as a lifestyle writer has many perks and benefits, including being invited to fancy restaurants and bars for new menu and cocktail tastings. But plus-one invitations are rare, so I’m used to enjoying luscious meals all by my lonesome. I’ve learned to make conversations with strangers and make peace with my place setting for one. Because I was only temporarily by myself, the private time to enjoy whatever rocked my culinary boat – and mine alone – was a bonus.
But when my long term relationship unexpectedly went south, eating alone lost its allure. The fun and elaborate meals I once cooked at home were reduced to a pack of chips, a container of cottage cheese or a pint of ice cream. If not for my dear friends and family, likely I would have quickly turned into a human version of a nacho chip or the Goodyear blimp.
Then I got my act in gear. Realizing the worse I ate, the worse I felt, I started to think more about the relationship between nutrition and nurturing. I decided to treat myself well at every meal.
Going out to restaurants by myself? No problem. I get dressed up, head out and cheerfully ask for a table for one (while pretending I am in Toronto, on business … even though I am likely in Gibsons). Then I enjoy the ambiance and the meal. The restaurants and servers who know how to make a single feel special get my repeat business – not to mention a heartfelt tip. If you’re nervous about taking up a table, opt for a place with a bar. You may even meet someone friendly, sitting right next to you.
Taking solo meals at home is another opportunity to treat yourself well. Cooking for one is less of a chore if you cook for two or more, reserving servings to freeze for another day. Trying new recipes and making multiple meals for the week ahead is a fun weekend activity. Or, team up with a solo friend and cook and swap ready-made suppers together.
When dining alone at home, set the table nicely for yourself, with flowers and a candle, as if someone special was coming over for dinner. It makes for a warm atmosphere – and yes, you alone are worth it.
